Friday, November 9, 2012

A Positive Approach Towards The Temtation to Rant

"If you're tired of doing what you're doing everyday, then why not find an inspiration to do it? Find reasons to motivate you to do what you're doing and be best in what you do. Like, for example I know that you want to help out little kids in an orphanage, then why not make them your reason to do your job in a different passion. Since you're in sales, why not give it your best shot and give them part of your commission. It may not mean a lot to you, but I'm telling you, it'll mean a lot to them. And they're not the only ones benefiting from you doing a good work in your job, you're stats will rise up, your confidence will boost, you'll find that you're job isn't really something to rant about, you'll be able to help people and to sum it all up it's a win-win situation. You'll be able to do that thing you want to do, i.e. helping the orphans, and you'll end up being a good employee. Well, it might not help you like your job, but at least it gives you something more to think about than just simply ranting about how you hate your job-- a job which I don't know why you took in the first place. :)"

That's my girlfriend's 2 cents on a positive approach towards the temptation to rant. It's not like I'm ranting too much-- okay maybe a little. Anyway, sometimes it really does help a lot, someone knocking some sense to you when you're losing your way.

Letting Go

In order for us to be able to move past the things we want to move on with, we must first accept the things that happened. That things are just the way they are. Life is fair, it may not seem like it at first, but given the time and a much deeper understanding of what happened, you'll realize that it is.


Most of the time, the reason we cannot move on with our lives is because we don't want to move on. We deny the fact that sometimes we just have to let go. We're so attached to whatever it is we're holding on to with the hopes that everything we'll be just the way they were. Wether it be moving on with the lost of a loved one, moving on with a recent break up with an almost perfect relationship, losing your job for whatever reason, losing a part of your body due to an accident, or whatever it is you're trying to move on with, you must accept that it happened. It does happens, and if we want to feel better we must first help ourselves. Other people's advice might help us yes, but those advise will just be unheard random noises if we don't even acknowledge we need help. How can other people help us if we're not even helping ourselves? If we want to feel better and go back to the life we want to live, then we need help ourselves because there are no fairy-godmothers in this world.


I've been feeling down for several months trying to move on with something until I found myself not wanting to let go. I realized I've been convincing myself-- or should I say lying to myself for months. I just couldn't let go of such an attachment that made me really happy in the past. But then I realized it's no longer helping me, It has affected my mood, my job and even how I deal with people,-- for the record, it's definitely not drugs. Anyway, after months of trying to hold on to that something, I've accepted that some things just wouldn't stay the way we wanted them to be. I've accepted that I need to let it go. I've released myself from the shackles preventing me to live a happier life. I resigned myself to the idea that whatever happened was a thing in the past and that it has shaped me to be a much stronger person. The happy memories will remain and the pain that I felt will be the foundation of my sturdier tomorrow.